Cultivating a Sense of Gratitude in Relationships:

Lessons from Japanese Psychology
How to Appreciate Your Partner 
Instead of Trying to Fix Him (or Her)

with local author Gregg Krech

 

Gregg has kindly made his powerpoint for the presentation available to us.

Thursday, February 12, 2009
6:30pm, Free, Lawrence Memorial Library.
For a map to the library, click here.

The relationship we have with our partner has the potential to be an ongoing source of growth and intimacy, a fulfilling partnership in which we travel through our life adventure as a team. But a relationship can also be a great source of frustration, disappointment and pain. Curiously, as we become busy with jobs, kids, household projects and personal interests, our primary relationship gets less and less attention. We may take our relationship, and our partner, for granted, consistently noticing how he or she falls short of our expectations.

In this free program we will explore the Japanese approach to self-reflection called Naikan (pronounced neye – con) and how it can be used to cultivate a greater sense of appreciation for one’s partner, and, beyond that, for one’s life. Self-reflection challenges us to cultivate love through gratitude and an honest self-examination of our own conduct towards others. The presentation will consist of a mix of stories, poetry, case studies, quotes and practical exercises with time for discussion and comments/questions from participants.

Gregg Krech is one of the leading authorities on Japanese Psychology in North America and the founding Director of the ToDo Institute, a nonprofit educational center for purposeful living in Monkton, Vermont. He is the author of the award-winning book: Naikan: Gratitude, Grace & the Japanese Art of Self-Reflection (Stone Bridge Press, 2002) and the editor of Thirty Thousand Days: A Journal for Purposeful Living. Gregg was recently featured on Vermont Edition where he discussed practical ideas for reclaiming the true spirit of the holiday season. He has pioneered the application of Naikan and Morita therapy in the areas of hospice, living fully with illness, relationships and attention. The ToDo Institute promotes an approach to life that emphasizes character development over symptom reduction, and points people towards doing something meaningful with their life, in spite of their limitations and problems.

Krech believes that self-reflection challenges us to cultivate love through gratitude and an honest self-examination of our own conduct towards others. His presentation will consist of a mix of stories, poetry, case studies, quotes and practical exercises with time for discussion and comments/questions from participants.


The One-World Library Project is a “world library within a library” with a collection of books, films, and other media about world cultures. OWLP items are available for community members to check out at the Lawrence Memorial Library in Bristol. The One-World Library Project also hosts regular programs at the library on the various fascinating cultures that fill our planet. For more information about the One-World Library Project please call 453-4147 or go to www.oneworldlibraryproject.org.

The Lawrence Memorial Library, which hosts the One-World Library Project, is located at 40 North Street in Bristol and has a full listing of items in the One-World Library in their online catalog, www.lawrencelibrary.net.

People are encouraged to recommend or donate items to OWLP that express the richness of their personal experiences with other cultures whether through family, study, travel, language, food, history, art or music. To purchase books or other media to donate to the project, the OWLP encourages the support of local bookstores such as the Vermont Book Shop in Middlebury.

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